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One is a Whole Number

October 10, 2012

In memory of Nancy Oberlin Bestwick and Dr. David Hawkins

In this interconnected universe, every improvement we make in our private world improves the world at large for everyone.  We all float on the collective level of consciousness of mankind, so that any increment we add comes back to us.  We all add to our common buoyancy by our efforts to benefit life.  It is a scientific fact that what is good for you is good for me.”  ~Dr. David Hawkins

A couple months before my Dad passed away from cancer in 2007, he said something to me I will never forget.  One night as we sat in the living room of the house I grew up in, he looked over at me and said, “I hope when I die I am alone.  I don’t want anyone to remember me dying…I want them to remember me living.”

There are certain points on “the journey of life” that are meant to be walked alone.  Which points?  We are not made privy to that information, but when the time comes, we know it.  It may be after the loss of a loved one, at your own death, after a divorce, after a job loss, after recovery from an addiction or even before a significant yet unknown event is supposed to occur in your life.  Regardless, being alone is mandatory.  For some journeys God gives you only one seat.

Being alone is one of the biggest lessons we can learn as humans.  Being alone is not easy…it is tough.  You are left alone with YOU.  No distractions, no one to get another opinion from, no one to tell you the “right” thing to do…no one.  Feelings arise that come out of nowhere.  Feelings of fear, loneliness, despair, or anxiety.  Yes, at times we all enjoy being alone – self-time if you will – but being alone when you don’t necessarily want to be, now that is where true lessons are born.

To appreciate anything in life we must experience polarities.  In order to know you like the company of others, you must have been alone at some time.  To know happiness you must also at one time had to know sadness.  The opposite of something is a part of that something – its opposite makes it whole.  In order to be “whole,” we must savor each experience AND it’s opposite.  A whole breath includes the inhale and the exhale…without either one, there would be no wholeness of breath.

One of the greatest illusions we have is that of individuality.  According to Dr. David Hawkins in his brilliant book, “Power vs. Force,” “the illusion of individuality is the origin of all suffering – when one realizes that one IS the universe, complete and at one with all that is, forever without end, then no further suffering is possible.”

The individual that is YOU has a very unique purpose.  You must have the entire experience of being human, which includes time alone, to learn, recapitulate events, reflect, pray and experience the wholeness of your soul being incarnated into this beautiful human body.  If you find yourself alone now, as I do, don’t allow yourself to give into the feelings of loneliness.  You are far from alone.  Each moment is as it is meant to be.  Savor it for what it is and allow the feelings and the experience to take you to places of this human experience you have not known before.  Learn from it, love it and above all, love yourself.  You are the only one that will ever always be there for you.  Others come and go…you stay.  Be the best you that you can possibly be and use your alone time to sharpen the blade, oil the engine and give yourself a needed tune-up.  Sleep, study, read, observe, pray, meditate, walk, experience the beauty of nature, reflect, work, don’t work, sing, dance, paint, sculpt, cry, laugh, run, take a bath, do absolutely nothing.

Whatever you do, as you find yourself alone, remember…one is a whole number.
(Thanks Nancy!)

“It’s my contention that the universe not only will, but must provide you with what you conceive of.  So if you complain about what is missing from your life – you will be offered experiences that match that energy.”  ~Dr. Wayne Dyer

Love you,

Chris

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Let Go? Heck NO!!!

June 4, 2012

We all have experienced times in our lives where we have to “let go” of something or someone.  Whether it is a loved one that has passed away or a job, a habit or even an old wound; letting go is not easy.  Letting go requires courage, faith and believe it or not, love…but not the kind of love you would think.

The love I am referring to here is the kind of love that many of us have the hardest time with…self-love.  In order to love yourself, you have to “let go” of those things in your life that are blocking you from feeling good about yourself.  These things can be thought patterns, behaviors, people, or environments.  You have heard me say before that everything is energy, including you.  Those things that make you feel bad (or are zapping your energy) are things you more than likely need to let go.  The Universe uses your feelings as a “flag system,” so to speak, to let you know if you are on the “right” path.  If you are feeling good about something or someone, keep going…you are on the right path.  If you are not feeling so good or that thing or person is taking a lot of your energy (or as I like to say, you are losing your power to that thing or person), it is time to let go.

Letting go can be challenging because your ego, up to this point, has convinced you that you NEED that person or thing for some reason…especially if it has been around for a long time.  This is where the courage and faith part comes into the picture.  You need to have the courage that something new and better will come along to replace the old and the faith in yourself and a higher power that you will be guided to those exact things you need to feel better and bring you all of the abundance you need.

We chatted a bit about money on Friday of last week.  Please remember one thing…”money is not abundance, love is.  Be the love and the money will come where it is needed.” (Justin Asar)  Just as everything else what you need will come to you effortlessly if you allow it room to do so.  Your emotions sit in what I like to refer to as a vessel.  Your vessel holds all of the emotions you have ever felt in every circumstance in your life…good and bad.  If we do not clean out our vessel every once and a while and “let go” of the old emotions that are weighing us down (such as anger, resentment, frustration, bitterness, etc.) we will have no room for new emotions and experiences to enter.  We will stay stuck in our old feelings and old ways of doing things.

This coming week is centered around spiritual healing and hitting the “control-alt-delete” button of your soul.  Clean house in your emotional vessel and let go of the old, out-dated feelings lingering there that no longer serve you.  See the lesson and take that with you…leave the heavy experience behind…LET IT GO!  Life is about learning lessons.  We are offered experience after experience to give us a chance to learn what we came here to learn.  Learn it and move on…there is more out there to experience.  Allow yourself to take risks and be open to what life has to offer.

Emerald is your crystal this week.  Wear an emerald or keep one by your bedside.  She is the master healing crystal who will help you on your journey of healing and letting go.  If you love dolphins (like I do!) and roses (like I do!), these energies will help with the letting go process as well.  Hang pictures of dolphins around you, wear dolphin jewelry put some freshly cut roses in your house or better yet, buy some for someone you love.

Remember, healing is a spiritual act.  It is love in motion.  Love yourself enough to allow yourself to let go and heal.  You are worth it!

Wearing my dolphin earrings today!

Chris

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