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October 22, 2012

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Chris Sopa is founder and owner of Chris Sopa International, Inc. You can learn more about her at Find her at, Twitter @ChrisSopa, LinkedIn, and .


One is a Whole Number

October 10, 2012

In memory of Nancy Oberlin Bestwick and Dr. David Hawkins

In this interconnected universe, every improvement we make in our private world improves the world at large for everyone.  We all float on the collective level of consciousness of mankind, so that any increment we add comes back to us.  We all add to our common buoyancy by our efforts to benefit life.  It is a scientific fact that what is good for you is good for me.”  ~Dr. David Hawkins

A couple months before my Dad passed away from cancer in 2007, he said something to me I will never forget.  One night as we sat in the living room of the house I grew up in, he looked over at me and said, “I hope when I die I am alone.  I don’t want anyone to remember me dying…I want them to remember me living.”

There are certain points on “the journey of life” that are meant to be walked alone.  Which points?  We are not made privy to that information, but when the time comes, we know it.  It may be after the loss of a loved one, at your own death, after a divorce, after a job loss, after recovery from an addiction or even before a significant yet unknown event is supposed to occur in your life.  Regardless, being alone is mandatory.  For some journeys God gives you only one seat.

Being alone is one of the biggest lessons we can learn as humans.  Being alone is not easy…it is tough.  You are left alone with YOU.  No distractions, no one to get another opinion from, no one to tell you the “right” thing to do…no one.  Feelings arise that come out of nowhere.  Feelings of fear, loneliness, despair, or anxiety.  Yes, at times we all enjoy being alone – self-time if you will – but being alone when you don’t necessarily want to be, now that is where true lessons are born.

To appreciate anything in life we must experience polarities.  In order to know you like the company of others, you must have been alone at some time.  To know happiness you must also at one time had to know sadness.  The opposite of something is a part of that something – its opposite makes it whole.  In order to be “whole,” we must savor each experience AND it’s opposite.  A whole breath includes the inhale and the exhale…without either one, there would be no wholeness of breath.

One of the greatest illusions we have is that of individuality.  According to Dr. David Hawkins in his brilliant book, “Power vs. Force,” “the illusion of individuality is the origin of all suffering – when one realizes that one IS the universe, complete and at one with all that is, forever without end, then no further suffering is possible.”

The individual that is YOU has a very unique purpose.  You must have the entire experience of being human, which includes time alone, to learn, recapitulate events, reflect, pray and experience the wholeness of your soul being incarnated into this beautiful human body.  If you find yourself alone now, as I do, don’t allow yourself to give into the feelings of loneliness.  You are far from alone.  Each moment is as it is meant to be.  Savor it for what it is and allow the feelings and the experience to take you to places of this human experience you have not known before.  Learn from it, love it and above all, love yourself.  You are the only one that will ever always be there for you.  Others come and go…you stay.  Be the best you that you can possibly be and use your alone time to sharpen the blade, oil the engine and give yourself a needed tune-up.  Sleep, study, read, observe, pray, meditate, walk, experience the beauty of nature, reflect, work, don’t work, sing, dance, paint, sculpt, cry, laugh, run, take a bath, do absolutely nothing.

Whatever you do, as you find yourself alone, remember…one is a whole number.
(Thanks Nancy!)

“It’s my contention that the universe not only will, but must provide you with what you conceive of.  So if you complain about what is missing from your life – you will be offered experiences that match that energy.”  ~Dr. Wayne Dyer

Love you,


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“Environmentally” Sensitive Area

October 8, 2012

~Hale Dwoskin, “The Sedona Method”

Sunday morning I decided to go on a hike.  For the last several weeks I have felt kicked around by life.  Every time I seem to turn a corner, another “opportunity for growth,” in the form of a major life disappointment seems to await me.  I feel as if I am letting everyone in my life down, failing at my business, failing as a Mom and a major loser when it comes to relationships.  I decided to have a conversation with God before I went on my hike.  It went something like this:

Hey God, it’s me, Chris (Ok, I know that is not original!).  I was wondering if you could do me a favor?  Lately I have been feeling kicked when I am down and very alone here in this fearful world.  I know my purpose and why you have put me here and I understand my road demands much more than the average person, but…can you cut me a little slack?  Can I have a small break?  A little breather maybe?  I am exhausted on every level and feel as if I am there for everyone but no one is there for me.  I feel very alone.  Can you send some help my way?  Throw me a bone?  In return I will, as always, be your channel.  Feel free to send through me any messages you feel the people whose paths I cross need to hear in whatever way they need to hear it.  I think that is a good deal, how about you?  You’re the best!  Amen.

So, off I went on my hike.  As I was walking the four mile round trip hike up Pinnacle Peak, I passed an area that said “environmentally sensitive area.”  If there had been a bench right there, I would have sat my sweaty, tired butt on it!  It seemed that area was made and named just for me.  Sensitive to say the least!

We have two environments in which we live:  external and internal.  Your external environment is everything you can experience with your five senses…your apparent “reality.”  Your internal environment is that which goes on inside of your head – your thoughts and feelings.  This internal environment also includes your psychic senses.  Yes, I said psychic.  We all have them…even you non-believers.  Intuition, visual, auditory and kinesthetic senses exist within us all.  We use them every day.  When we tend to be more sensitive in our external environment due to circumstances happening which we have no control, our internal environment takes over.

I don’t know about you but on a daily basis I choose to live according to my internal environment rather than my external one.  I choose to believe in synchronicity, guidance, signs, that I can create my own reality, answered prayers and that a higher power is watching over me and always by my side…no matter what.

We are currently in times where our external environment is in chaos.  Fear is running the show.  If we give into fear it pollutes our internal environment.  Take a moment today to “clean the air” in your internal environment.  De-pollute it by getting rid of negative thinking, self-depreciating thoughts, and a belief that it is unsafe to be yourself and to speak your truth, beliefs that some external force or person has power over you.  Set up your own filter…decide what you will allow in and what needs to go.

It’s ok to feel over-sensitive every once and awhile.  It keeps us on our toes and aware that there is some “cleaning house” that needs to be done.  Get out the broom and start sweeping…

Now where did I put my vacuum?


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Choosing the Life You Were Born to Live-Available for Purchase

October 6, 2012


“Choosing the Life You Were Born to Live” by Christine Sopa published by Balboa Press now available for purchase.

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Once you become aware of a thought that is limiting you in one way or another, you then have the power to change it.”

The thoughts and beliefs we have about ourselves and the world around us create our reality.  That reality is the matrix in which we make choices that affect our life and our level of joy every day.  Through her compelling personal stories, humor and the vulnerable nature in which she shares pieces of her own life, Christine Sopa guides you on a journey of self-discovery where you will learn to use the power of your thoughts to achieve joy in an ever changing world.

All of us have come to a point in our lives where we know we can look back but never go back.  At this point, it is imperative to be able to see the bigger picture of your life, to understand that you deserve and have the power to create the world around you as you want it to be and that guidance is available to all of us every step of the way.  All we have to do is learn how to listen.

On this journey of self-exploration, you will learn to understand what barriers keep you from overcoming your deepest fears, how to use your emotions as a guide in making choices and finally understand why you do and don’t make the choices you do in your life.

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Which Is The “Right” Road?

October 5, 2012

If there is one secret to success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.” ~Henry Ford

Before I begin any of my workshops or keynotes, I say one thing.  I ask everyone to keep an open mind and warn them that they may hear some things they have never heard before that may rub up against their beliefs.  My job, I say, is not to get you to agree with me or to change your beliefs.  My job is to get you thinking about your own.  I encourage them to disagree with me because disagreeing with me means I got them thinking.

Let’s face it, we all have different beliefs and down deep we all think our beliefs are the correct ones.  Our society and religion as a whole have done an excellent job in getting us to think the collective beliefs are the way to go.  We are secretly punished through side glances, rolling eyes and being unwelcomed in certain circles if we disagree.

I recently spoke for a large organization on stress management and balance.  I am usually the closing speaker of the day so I like to sit in and listen to the other speakers so I can tie in what they say to my lecture.  During this particular day I noticed an interesting phenomenon.  The speaker right before me was a very open-minded Chaplain.  He spoke for an hour on God, judgment when you get to heaven based on your wrong-doings and prayer.  He was a very good speaker and had the audience captivated.  We broke for lunch and then I was on stage.

As many of you may know by reading my blog or by hearing me speak, I am very open minded regarding religions.  My belief is that we all find our own road to God.  Each road is different and is made up of beliefs we have formed from our experiences in life thus far.  There is no “right” or “wrong” road…that’s my opinion.  Your “right” road is the one that works for you right now in your life-and it may change as you learn, experience, travel and meet new people.

In my lecture, I touched on the Law of Attraction, energy, past lives, how every person in our life is a teacher, sacred spiritual contracts and how we make decisions based on emotion and not logic.  I said feelings are the physical manifestation of guidance from above and we can use our feelings as a decision-making tool.  I watched the eyes roll and arms cross.  I kept going.

Were there some individuals who embraced what I was saying…absolutely!  What I found fascinating was how the Chaplain’s comments were welcomed and not questioned, but mine were silently made “wrong.”  Now, do I know this is true for a fact?  Did anyone come up to me and say “Chris you are full of sh*%!”  No, of course not.  But I felt it.  Did I take it personal?  No.  Did I make them wrong?  No.  I actually loved it!  By the end of my 4 hours, many of the ones who were rolling their eyes were now paying attention.  I made them think and wonder.  Fabulous!

The point is perception is reality and our individual perceptions differ.  The key to relationships and world peace, in my humble opinion, is letting go of being right.  Stop making others wrong simply because their opinion differs from your own.  How do you know for sure that what you believe is right?  I know I don’t.  I am humble enough to believe that I may be wrong.  I may get to heaven and the “fire and brimstone” version is actually true.  If that’s the case I will walk into the fire knowing one thing – I did the best I could and that is all anyone, including God, asks for.  We were made human and humans are not perfect.  Get over it.  Strive for excellence and not perfection and just do the best you can from where you are now.  That is always enough…in my humble opinion.

Aim for success, not perfection.”  ~David Burns

Humbly yours,


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